tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post4467374288502876007..comments2023-04-25T15:58:47.443-07:00Comments on Finding Jane Doe: Holding My Tonguephilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04754781281360440378noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-15327553530056011912009-11-19T18:59:58.267-08:002009-11-19T18:59:58.267-08:00Hmmmm, I do think it matters how old these kids ar...Hmmmm, I do think it matters how old these kids are. If we are talking about teenagers here, well, I think that they are old enough to engage in more serious discussions. And frankly, many teens are actually open to this, considering they are so righteous about wanting to be treated as adults. <br /><br />Bombarding them will all your thoughts and feelings, might not be appropriate, however, I think there are ways to start a useful discussion without even outing yourself as an adoptee (if you are not comfortable with that).<br /><br />It could have been as simple as: "What is it about being adopted that you find amusing?" Not sarcastic, but rather point of fact. They might give you silly nonsensical answers, which you could still pull from or they could give you something more substantial that could then be explored.<br /><br />At that time, you did not feel comfortable, so you did the right thing by not taking them to task. This would be a serious discussion and should probably be tackled when you are prepared.<br /><br />I most definitely think it is an issue that should be tackled and believe (just from your blog posts) that you would do a great job :))madduchesshttp://www.madduchess.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-77835953099903996442009-11-19T15:05:23.630-08:002009-11-19T15:05:23.630-08:00I tend to agree with Lava. If you weren't abs...I tend to agree with Lava. If you weren't absolutely comfortable talking about it (when you're in the authority position), it would be too compromising.<br /><br />I don't know though. With your talents and thoughtfulness, you may come up with ways of communicating in those situations with more practice?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-30264295652528061582009-11-18T22:05:18.737-08:002009-11-18T22:05:18.737-08:00I think it would have been too dicey in that situa...I think it would have been too dicey in that situation. That is just me.Marigold Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04507611823216447575noreply@blogger.com