tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post6604987554302604673..comments2023-04-25T15:58:47.443-07:00Comments on Finding Jane Doe: They Won't Like Mephilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04754781281360440378noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-18155637669910934382010-05-20T09:53:46.789-07:002010-05-20T09:53:46.789-07:00I like you.
You know what has helped me is real...I like you. <br /><br />You know what has helped me is realizing that even if they don't like you, you are going to be okay and lots of people love and like you and you can too. <br /><br />Any form of rejection you receive now is not going to impact you like relinquishment. I think that is a biggie for adoptees. The first rejection, feels life or death and is imprinted in our cells. Therefore we can fear rejection and try to avoid it to our own detriment for our entire lives. <br /><br />The reality is though, we aren't little babies any more and even the very painful rejection of siblings, and I know this one, is live-through-able. <br /><br />In the weird way that the world works I even think some rejection can help us rewire our thought patterns. Away from the very painful patterns relinquishment lays the tracks down for.<br /><br />(((((Phil))))<br /><br />You have my vote of confidence.joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15658928829424953809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-24698881988206499602010-05-20T06:18:13.190-07:002010-05-20T06:18:13.190-07:00There were several letters in today's NYTimes ...There were several letters in today's NYTimes regarding an op-ed piece that dismissed principled resistance to military service during the war in Vietnam. Here is one quote that I think may put your dilemma in historic perspective: <br /><br />"I have no memory of classmates “cloaking their actions in idealism.” More culpable, to my mind, were those who supported the war and yet did all they could to avoid service in Vietnam, like George W. Bush, Dick Cheney, Phil Gramm and Trent Lott."<br /><br />Would your brother have voted for any of these un-American guys? <br /><br />I think you go into this knowing that you have idealistic differences and avoid political conversations like the plague.Angellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02400662014485775139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-399051733671533282010-05-20T05:45:50.256-07:002010-05-20T05:45:50.256-07:00ahhh... I was a bit tired when when I wrote this....ahhh... I was a bit tired when when I wrote this... I often don't like myself for reasons otherwise unrelated to the content of this post. <br /><br />And I don't really think my views are un-American, I just think they will think so. And I expect them to dislike me for it.<br /><br />Thanks for the reading suggestion.philhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04754781281360440378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-43958116075334059762010-05-20T00:22:11.203-07:002010-05-20T00:22:11.203-07:00How can you not like yourself for being un-America...How can you not like yourself for being un-American, given how the rest of the world views some of those things? If they don't like you, tough at least you found out, you'll probably win some loose some as I have with my five half-siblings.<br />Have you read Evelyn Burns Robinson on reunion? You May find it helpful.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.com