tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post7542050613846769632..comments2023-04-25T15:58:47.443-07:00Comments on Finding Jane Doe: More Harm Than Good?philhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04754781281360440378noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-88888636024804772332009-10-19T15:18:46.666-07:002009-10-19T15:18:46.666-07:00Your voice would be a very sad one to lose. I hop...Your voice would be a very sad one to lose. I hope, even if you take a break you will come back and continue the fight as I believe you do make a difference in what you have to say.<br /><br />I undestand those times when it feels as if everything is hitting you personally. Even those with the thickest of skins sometimes get overcome by some of what is thrown around out there. But please,remember, there are many out there who support you and your voice.<br /><br />Without adoptees and their own feelings and experiences, we lose so much in our figh for reform.Cassihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00274531213087340905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-35948317874312411582009-10-19T10:42:57.704-07:002009-10-19T10:42:57.704-07:00You know, you and I haven't always been on the...You know, you and I haven't always been on the best of terms online.<br /><br />I haven't always agreed with everything you said online - I'm just another adoptee like yourself, almost all of us are bound to disagree on certain points anyway - but there is one thing I admired about you:<br /><br />The ability in you to hold your stance so strongly.<br /><br />I really admired that in you. Still do. You have a level of confidence in your position that I deeply admire.<br /><br />Don't give up. Your voice is just as valid as the rest of ours.Mei-Linghttp://exiledsister.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-2695914234438138872009-10-18T15:16:14.998-07:002009-10-18T15:16:14.998-07:00(((((Phil)))) sorry you are having such a rough ti...(((((Phil)))) sorry you are having such a rough time of things... please don't loath yourself, you are a very special person.<br /><br />Take care of you and know we are all here for you!<br /><br />Myst xxxMysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07425550479815459790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-70270256789313547452009-10-18T12:31:46.636-07:002009-10-18T12:31:46.636-07:00I'm very sorry... I'm having a bit of tro...I'm very sorry... I'm having a bit of trouble right now. I think all of this is in my head. I'm currently full of self-doubt, and a little bit of self-loathing. It's coming out in almost every decision I make right now, every word that I say. I shouldn't have written this, I think. I'm very down on myself, and I'm seeing accusations of fault in everything at the moment. I do feel that people tell me this sort of thing, but if I had to say who, I don't know if I could name a single person right now.philhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04754781281360440378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-56542250126242753262009-10-18T11:02:04.115-07:002009-10-18T11:02:04.115-07:00Who told you that?
I know I need you.
I know you...Who told you that?<br /><br />I know I need you.<br /><br />I know you help.Ungrateful Little Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156483035844101714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-62384653850324549222009-10-18T10:04:52.619-07:002009-10-18T10:04:52.619-07:00I have no idea who told you, you were hurting the ...I have no idea who told you, you were hurting the cause. I certainly don't feel that way. I am suspicious of anyone who would say such a thing.<br /><br />As adoptees our right to our own agency has been so co-opted by so many--that often I find adoptees who want to "do something" adopt that same model of being patronising and ridiculous. Speaking on the same specious authoritay.<br /><br />Some misguided adoptees set themselves up in positions of "authority" that exist in their own minds and they are the ones in my unblushing opinion that are hurting a lot more than a cause.<br /><br /><br />Parenthesis ((((((((((((Phil)))))))))<br /><br /><br /><br />joyjoyMarigold Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04507611823216447575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-51404410184315691702009-10-18T09:38:36.129-07:002009-10-18T09:38:36.129-07:00I refuse to be lectured by adoptees and non-adopte...I refuse to be lectured by adoptees and non-adoptees on how to act or write or anything else. <br /><br />Hurting the cause is remaining silent and going along with the "status-quo". I don't see the Gay Rights Movement doing that. <br /><br />Sadly, to get attention to any cause in today's world, the sh*t has to be stirred and people have to be pissed off. <br /><br />I only "attack" people who preach to me on how I should act or feel, especially when I'm told to be grateful and not be ANGRY. Ya right, WHATEVER.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-3854981861368789352009-10-18T09:29:41.206-07:002009-10-18T09:29:41.206-07:00I am feeling these exact same feelings right now. ...I am feeling these exact same feelings right now. <br />What is sad is that people who don't want to hear what we say can construe our words and nervousness when speaking however they want. It is so hard to be dismissed because we don't agree with the adoption agenda.Samantha Franklinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18249283547377633349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-86812055433623149582009-10-18T06:53:42.288-07:002009-10-18T06:53:42.288-07:00Many people will see ANY form of disagreement as t...Many people will see ANY form of disagreement as the equivalent of not playing "nice." You are incredibly helpful to the cause, as are all adoptees who speak out. It's a voice that is still rarely heard which is why I think it would be a huge loss if you are silenced. Please don't give up.maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07067284504038707207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-64624268142901419612009-10-18T05:38:32.013-07:002009-10-18T05:38:32.013-07:00Phil, you are NOT hurting the cause. You have as m...Phil, you are NOT hurting the cause. You have as much right to speak up about how you feel as anyone else does who speaks up. I have come across many who come across offensive but I don't see them backing down. By them I mean all parties involved in adoption. But if you can't speak up about YOUR experience then what good is ANYONE doing for the movement? How are you hurting it?<br /><br />I have been told I don't come across nicely either, I don't give a damn. Being nice is what lost my my child. Time is up for "nice". "Nice" is all relative anyway.<br /><br />Keep speaking up. NO ONE has the right to shut you down, even if they are supposedly fighting on the same side. We are all individuals and we all perceive things differently. But we all have a right to have a voice.<br /><br />Don't give up Phil.<br /><br />Myst xxx<br /><br />Oops, so sorry... wrote this half asleep and used your blog name, doh!!<br /><br />October 18, 2009 1:28 AMMysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07425550479815459790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8622045412938847718.post-65393942767058123532009-10-18T01:28:08.221-07:002009-10-18T01:28:08.221-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Mysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07425550479815459790noreply@blogger.com