Thursday, March 5, 2009

A Slap in the Face

From the "devaluing motherhood" file...

Carla Bruni says she would adopt a child:

'I would like (to have a baby with my husband), but I don't know if at my age it would be possible,' the 41-year-old singer and former supermodel told Figaro Magazine.

'If it's not biologically possible, I'll adopt one,' she added. 'Adoption is perhaps the purist form of motherhood,' she added.

There are lots of things I would like, but the ones that aren't possible I don't try to force by taking it from someone else. But never mind that, I guess.

What really struck me about this was the "Adoption is perhaps the purist form of motherhood" crack. Really? How is adoption the purest form of motherhood? It's not the natural form of motherhood. There is no immediate connection, based on biology and nine months of biological dependence. There is no genetic tie.

Does she think those women who give birth to their children and raise them aren't really mothers? Is there motherhood somehow less pure?

People have such an amazing need to glorify adoption that they say completely ridiculous things. Whatever one thinks about adoption, whatever one thinks about the nature of adoptive parents, no one really believes that adoption is the purest form of motherhood, do they?

1 comment:

joy said...

I took it to mean that it is the ultimate act of giving, to nurture a child that you don't really want.

Maybe it is just me...