Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Simple Truths

Sometimes I need to remind myself of some things...

* I am an adoptee. It is not the whole of my identity, but my identity is not complete without mentioning this. Being an adoptee shapes so much of who I am.

* I do not dislike adoptive parents. I just don't want there to be any more of them.

* "Everyone goes through difficulties" is both true and a poor excuse for not having empathy for people going through a rough time.

* There is no way to make up for missing 30+ years together, but that doesn't mean I can't try.

* Not everyone can understand everything, but having one person who can understand even one thing is sometimes enough.

* Everything happens for a reason, but it doesn't always happen for a GOOD reason.

2 comments:

Mei Ling said...

"Everything happens for a reason, but it doesn't always happen for a GOOD reason."

I see that all the time... (sans the word GOOD, of course, it's just a given.)

Bonnie said...

Phil,
As a mom, I hate when I get that response form people who hear my story of reunion....that everything happens for a "reason". And what you said is exactly what I say to them- "Yes, but not a good reason". I loathe that saying. I'm right with you.